Resentment tears relationships apart, and often happens when you are quiet about something instead of speaking out. “Honey, would you go run me a bath?” Gritting teeth. “Sure.” Thoughts? “Like you can’t run your own bath? Don’t I have things to do too?” And so one person goes merrily on their way, not even knowing the other resents their request.

I’m trying something out. Take no actions that you resent. None. If I’m asked to do something I object to for whatever reason, I’m speaking out.

Very often we try to smooth things over. We do things for others even though we’re busy with something else. Sometimes we do things for others even though we morally object to them. We do this for our partners, our children, our family members, our co-workers, and our bosses. Sure, there are some things that we don’t want to do that we HAVE to do, but on careful evaluation, there are a lot of circumstances in which we can say no if we have the courage to rock the boat.

Rock the boat with me folks. Maybe we can rock the world. What do you say yes to when you really want to say no?